I Choose

They done gone and done it now!! I just received and email that caused me to exhale. I thank God for the people we meet, the encounters we have (because each of them is life-changing, whether you want to admit it or not), and the ability to choose. I’m thankful for my own mind to follow my own heart, dreams, realize my fears, and choose to overcome/face them head on.

My only message today is to not wait. Don’t wait on the timing to improve. Don’t wait until you are a little more comfortable. You can have what you want. Give up being restrained. Don’t live in the confines of others expectations. Love freely and often.

Pray, Listen, and Move.

Live.

I want success and happiness for you, however you choose to define it. Be grateful and take account of those blessing in your life. Find the good in your day, and share your light with others.

You are a Champion!

-EyeSay

7 Keys to A Successful Marriage

Come, come now. How should I know? I’m not married. I did sleep at a Holiday Inn Express last night…and some of my BEST friends are married (pun intended), but that’s not my life, currently. I know what I think and what I’ve seen. Being inlove keeps you looking young, feeling energetic and acting giddy. It is the envy of the masses when you see a happy elderly couple acting like teenagers.
(http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/staticslideshowrs.aspx?cp-documentid=23367571&GT1=32023)
Who doesn't want love when it's genuine, warm, and given freely (without judgment or remorse).

Here are my tidbits on a successful marriage. You can save me from myself if you see me barking up the wrong tree.

1. Remember and apply these words: negotiation and compromise. The name of the game is sacrifice. It is possible to put someone before yourself without losing who you are. You do not have to have your way all the time.

2. Keep dating, keep courting, and keep doting. Laugh often!! What you did to get them is what you do to keep them. And as you learn them, you do more to let them know how much they mean to you. But not do more of what you want, but more of what they like. Are you listening to who they are? Do not forsake quality time that encompasses appreciating your mate. It’s more than just alone time, it’s adore time.

3. Put the weapons down: cold shoulders, slicing tongues, hurtful hands, below the belt shots. There is a difference between honest and cruel. Communicating effectively is not over rated or impossible.

4. Shhhh. Stop talking so much and listen. Then apply/implement the action items/suggestions. This is not an opportunity to make your point or win the argument. Care about what they are going through and what’s on their minds.

5. Lowered Expectaaaations (anyone remember that satire from MAD TV - completely unrelated, just asking). Many times we screw the pooch holding others hostage to our expectations and further become upset when they don’t do what we want or say. However, if each one focuses on being better in the relationship for the other person, the expectation becomes the standard, without demanding it.

6. A marriage is between two people. Do everything you can to keep it that way. What more can be said about this, really…

7. Your relationship with God changes so much. It shows you how to forgive, not be angry, be supportive, love unconditionally, give without expectation, serve honey instead of salt, mend wounds, not create new ones, treasure this life and your gift (your spouse) everyday. This life is short. Share good days.

Let's go ahead and wrap this one up. I'm always interested in words of wisdom and look forward to you telling what you think it takes to have a successful marriage. Give us all some tips to grow on.

"But let patience have her perfect work that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing." - James 1:4


-EyeSay